tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post8861736228559383873..comments2024-02-13T01:25:33.947-05:00Comments on The Gods Are Bored: Summertime NervesAnne Johnsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15478513906953607043noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-49584301407446806842011-07-25T03:25:07.376-04:002011-07-25T03:25:07.376-04:00I'm surrounded by adopted people, but they wer...I'm surrounded by adopted people, but they were all adopted as infants, so the bonding thing was pretty much like most bondings. I imagine what you are talking about is much like bonding with a step-parent, and I can't tell you how I bonded with my two step-sons as it was quite gradual.kimchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14020798623317549440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-778637897238798612011-07-22T16:22:05.675-04:002011-07-22T16:22:05.675-04:00DM, I make a protection sign when I have to go int...DM, I make a protection sign when I have to go into Ocean Grove. The crucifixes on the beach are CREEPY.Anne Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18083739996560380258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-50965522012561047012011-07-22T11:24:21.955-04:002011-07-22T11:24:21.955-04:00I totally have to take your side in the whole sist...I totally have to take your side in the whole sister battle.<br /><br />Also, Asbury is one of my favorite beaches. I love Ocean Grove as well, but their bullshit political Jesus crap is on my last nerve lately.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-25747573073446848512011-07-21T21:10:58.012-04:002011-07-21T21:10:58.012-04:00Quickie adoptions? Oh wow...
I only know one pers...Quickie adoptions? Oh wow...<br /><br />I only know one person who has adopted, and it took her and her husband a few years to adopt one little boy from China (I think it was China). Once they got their new son back home they bonded by taking time off from work to...stay home! With their son.Dancing With Feyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03493553137383118631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-13019743767264692942011-07-21T16:58:17.192-04:002011-07-21T16:58:17.192-04:00I'm with Karl..go back to the beach..take some...I'm with Karl..go back to the beach..take some rubber bands, your bathing suit and a hat..your life is good, your sis's isn't..she's a big girl..let her figure it out for herself.yellowdoggrannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14906624317290990109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-1129804726474321502011-07-21T15:30:28.127-04:002011-07-21T15:30:28.127-04:00If you don't want to do the beach again (Gods,...If you don't want to do the beach again (Gods, I miss the ocean! But that is a rant of mine...) I have the hammocks up and hanging in the shade.<br /><br />As for needing to buy the insta-family children gifts-books, books, books!<br /><br />Oh, and hooray for government red tape. Imagine that, protecting children against dire possibilities!Lavanahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14295089071497942411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-16293967647980924282011-07-21T14:28:12.515-04:002011-07-21T14:28:12.515-04:00The realities of child trafficking and abduction m...The realities of child trafficking and abduction make such stringent rules necessary. If your sister can't understand that, then too bad. The issue is bigger than her own little selfish wants.Debra She Who Seekshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01845703092794695023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-70359966960293673012011-07-21T12:30:29.433-04:002011-07-21T12:30:29.433-04:00I think I would turn the computer off (or quit Fac...I think I would turn the computer off (or quit Facebook), put on my suit (and pony tail thingys), and head back to the beach if I were you.<br /><br />Your sister's "mess" is her "mess" (and it sounds like the kids are going to have their lives cut out for them if they can avoid being irreversibly mentally damaged and years of the shrink's couch).<br /><br />What stinks is that you have to buy them birthday pressies or you are a "bad aunt".Intense Guyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08441598926026727682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-89117531314215867292011-07-21T12:09:40.821-04:002011-07-21T12:09:40.821-04:00Gee, Anne, I haven't adopted lately but my ste...Gee, Anne, I haven't adopted lately but my step-brother and his husband did. They adopted a brother and sister (I believe their son was about 6 and their daughter was still under 1 year at the time they came to live with them). <br /><br />But after hearing about their story for the past couple of years (because this is the process for regular people even in a foster care situation and perhaps especially when it's a gay couple) - I <i>think</i> the way these children bond with their new parents is by living day to day with parents who are there - as opposed to being in prison. See, in the world of foster care adoptions these children are often coming from really difficult circumstances. Their son, old enough to really remember and having had a relationship with his biological parents, had to testify in court against them (for what I'm not certain). Their daughter is a very young and adorable diva who entertains constantly but their son has really struggled with his past life and the process of bonding has taken a very long time. There is no magical trip or speedy way to "bond" with wounded children and, to the best of my knowledge, throwing money at these demons does little to extinguish them though well placed affection, time, and consistency in their circumstances will help. <br /><br />It's not my personal experience but I can tell you that I applaud my step-brother and his husband in their work and the kids are holding up pretty well despite the struggles. In the end they are loved and they know it. That's what matters.Pomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12294207351440999597noreply@blogger.com