tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post4050562862804579890..comments2024-02-13T01:25:33.947-05:00Comments on The Gods Are Bored: On GuiltAnne Johnsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15478513906953607043noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-83403717300025147782009-12-22T14:22:52.317-05:002009-12-22T14:22:52.317-05:00Wouldn't it be nice if spammers somehow left t...Wouldn't it be nice if spammers somehow left their home eddress so we could spam them back?kimchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14020798623317549440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-61691187936180101982009-12-18T08:54:53.636-05:002009-12-18T08:54:53.636-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-61506076115713230432009-12-18T00:56:50.739-05:002009-12-18T00:56:50.739-05:00I'm trying to work my mother in law through so...I'm trying to work my mother in law through some horrible guilt she's feeling now because her husband's recently passed (last Thurs). She prayed for the past year for her god to help her out of her debt and now believes, because her SSI benefits will increase as a direct result of her husband passing, that she basically prayed her husband into an "early" grave. Of course this is following a 15 year illness so I'm unsure how "early" the grave is. I think some people just like their guilt. <br /><br />On another note, since you brought up vultures, I have to tell you that I've been forced to confront these people in Colorado for their abusive use of the word "buzzard" as a substitute for the word "bastard" because they are loathe to swear. You've ruined me with your dedicated reverence for the vulture and I cannot stand to hear their nature demeaned so carelessly by those so misinformed and naive!Pomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12294207351440999597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-51741453357877370632009-12-17T19:11:28.084-05:002009-12-17T19:11:28.084-05:00I was raised Catholic. I breathed in guilt like o...I was raised Catholic. I breathed in guilt like other kids breathed fresh air.Hecatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09291488568404382739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-86131279898475976772009-12-17T14:32:19.076-05:002009-12-17T14:32:19.076-05:00Only you can make you feel guilty.
My mom was a ...Only you can make you feel guilty. <br />My mom was a councelor. Once I learned this lesson, her attempts at guilt trips were pointless.<br />Regret is a different thing all together.Lori F - MNnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-1232981664441154142009-12-17T14:12:46.390-05:002009-12-17T14:12:46.390-05:00I never interpreted the rede to demand that I ABSO...I never interpreted the rede to demand that I ABSOLUTELY harm NONE, because like you pointed out, that is relatively impossible, unless you happen to be Southern Baptist, who, according to everything they tell me, never hurt anyone (accept those that God has said are fine to hurt). However, I DO accept the intent of the rede in that we simply have to weigh our actions in context rather than trying to adhere to a strict rulebook which can't possibly immunize us or our loved ones from harm or can actually cause it due to inflexibility or misdirected or worn out ethics. So, no, I do not suffer guilt unless I did something against my better judgement and then I assign it to ME rather some hapless diety.Alex Pendragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15877845166621794334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-55859863985100383232009-12-17T12:12:20.510-05:002009-12-17T12:12:20.510-05:00Anne, what a great post today! And probably timely...Anne, what a great post today! And probably timely for people rushing around dealing with family around the holidays (Catholic and Jewish moms esp. seem adept at pushing the guilt buttons). Buddhist teacher Cheri Huber talks a lot about what she calls "egocentric karmic conditioning" and L. Ron Hubbard called "the reactive mind" and there's probably dozens of other terms for it. It's that little chattery voice in our heads that alternately criticizes us ("You're a no good gluttonous peanut butter cookie gobbler") or chatters a story defending our actions ("But I had to eat that last cookie, because..."). None of what that guilt-inflicting voice says is really true, but the energy we expend listening to it keeps us from actually addressing what we want to do, e.g. limit our cookie intake. Cheri's book _When You're Falling, Dive_ talks about the virtue of acceptance, meaning, we accept that we're not perfect, and rather than getting caught up in flogging ourselves or defending ourselves, we just note it, and move on (e.g. "Sorry, grass...".) Byron Katie's Inquiry technique is another way to help us catch ourselves getting caught up in the guilt game. Once we see ourselves doing it, we no longer get caught up in the agita, and are free.Rick Loftus, M.D.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-49960101579438476382009-12-17T10:56:41.648-05:002009-12-17T10:56:41.648-05:00"Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoin..."Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I'll meet you there." ~ RumiDalesingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04294377114618310271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-32991856120281180012009-12-17T00:51:28.397-05:002009-12-17T00:51:28.397-05:00I have a lot of aaww shit moments..but no guilt..i...I have a lot of aaww shit moments..but no guilt..its done.get over it.yellowdoggrannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14906624317290990109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12171673.post-64572182577797734552009-12-16T22:26:59.172-05:002009-12-16T22:26:59.172-05:00Thanks, Anne! I'm going to pig out on peanut b...Thanks, Anne! I'm going to pig out on peanut butter cookies now!Debra She Who Seekshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01845703092794695023noreply@blogger.com