Monday, March 31, 2014

Free Advice on Avoiding Child Molesters in Your Praise and Worship Team

Let's be brutally frank. Religious activities are rife with opportunities for people to engage in power trips, seductions, abuse, and mind games. I've seen it almost everywhere I've ever seen a group of people gathered for worship, no matter the faith path. This is part of the reason I've joined the teeming masses of folks who revere buzzards.

There's a lot of Scottish DNA in me, and I feel that's were I get my skepticism. I'm always on the lookout for a hidden agenda, and at times I've actively put people to the test to see if they have such agendas without them knowing they were being tested.

Friends, we would like life to be all kindness and good will, but be skeptical. Start from a position of caution, and remain cautious. Always ask yourself, "Is this a balanced relationship?" If you feel that someone has more to gain from you than you have from them, proceed with caution.

Go into every situation with the aim of full disclosure. I had to have a full criminal background check to be able to care for the diaper babies in the United Methodist Church. I mean, fingerprints and all. You know what? I applaud the UMC for this oversight. AND for sending other church ladies randomly to spy on me. On this, the Methodists had it going on.

The sad fact about child abusers is that they are the sneakiest of all. They will toe the straight and narrow for years and years, gaining everyone's trust ... and then they strike. So, how are they to be avoided?

Keep track of your kids everywhere you go. If they are going to be out of your sight with some church elder, demand that this person have a criminal background check.

Yes, your youngsters want some time outside your purview, especially perhaps at the Pagan campground. Okay, let them take that nature hike, but spy relentlessly. Maybe you won't enjoy yourself quite as much, but that's your kid. How many people out there wish they'd never let their sons be altar boys?

Oh, Anne Johnson. So paranoid. What an awful way to go through life.

Hold that thought.

One of my very best friends was busted with a computer full of the most horrendous child abuse pornography. He's still doing time, and when he comes out, what exactly will he do with the rest of his life? He's a pariah. You know what this man was before that computer got seen by the wrong eyes? A pillar of the community, a deacon in the church, a youth group leader. That's what. Oh yeah, and president of the regional Big Brothers chapter.

Skepticism is a virtue. Better to be pleasantly surprised than bitterly disappointed. Proceed with caution. Trust only that the Sun will rise in the east.

4 Comments:

At March 31, 2014 , Blogger Lucretia said...

Unfortunately, this is an excellent and VERY WISE post. I wish posts like these weren't necessary, but they ARE.

When my son was about 10, we joined a Renn faire group. The head of this group was known to approach young men in their late teens and early twenties for sex. While my son wasn't even close to that age yet, he looked older than he was, and I cautioned him never to be alone with this person, and that if he came into a public restroom while my son was alone in it, he was to leave immediately. While I hated to have to explain to my son why this was necessary, I felt it was far better to be safe than sorry.

 
At March 31, 2014 , Blogger JACKIESUE said...

you always were the smartest of the bunch..

 
At March 31, 2014 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Our Unitarian Universalist churches do those background checks too. I'm sorry it's necessary, but it is. Better be safe than sorry.
--Kim

 
At April 01, 2014 , Blogger Anne Johnson said...

Yes, when I had the background check, I thought, "WTF?" But it didn't take me long to figure out why they were doing it. And considering that I once had a babysitter who was so keen to drive her new car that she put my kids in it (8 and 3) without seat belts and went for a joy ride, I would argue that you even have to be careful in the teens you hire to guard the striplings while you go to the potluck.

 

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